Woman must not accept; she must challenge.
She must not be awed by that which has been built up around her;
she must reverence that woman in her which struggles for expression.
~ Margaret Sanger ~
Of late there has been a lot happening in the country. We have had a controversial IPL season 3, Sania getting married to Shoaib and media going mad over it, Tharoor one of the most decent ‘neta’ resigning, RTI Act, Women Reservation Bill, Jessica Lal getting justice after 11 years, Dantewada massacre which took away 76 CRPF Jawans and much more. But through this post I discuss something which has been bothering me from a long time.
When the news of Sania marrying Shoaib broke there were so many questions that came up but one question that was asked to Sania by every reporter and which was on everyone’s lips was ” Will you continue to play for India? OR Which team will you cheer for from now onwards?” Nobody even ‘cared’ to ask the same question to Shoaib!
Now, I was wondering why the hell people are after poor Sania? And trust me, the answer was very simple “Because She is WOMAN’! Even citing this reason makes me feel so outmoded but at the end this is reality. We are living in the 21st century where India is progressing by leaps & bounds but when it comes to women, I feel sorry as a ‘man’ because the way we treat them is atrocious.
What kind of society is our’s where a woman is answerable to the whole world but a man is not? Why every time women are made the scape goat and why do men escape as smart ‘asses’?? The problems women face are huge and I really don’t think I can do any justice to their severity and through this post I discuss some of the things which disturb me!
I recently read somewhere that the Pakistani Media is calling Sania Mirza – ‘Malik’ now. Now it has nothing to with Pakistan but it just makes me wonder why the hell women have to change their surname/last name after marriage? I mean WTF is this and who the hell came up with this concept? Why can’t men change their surname OR Why can’t be there no changing business at all? I really don’t know how women adjust with it. At least I feel it should be women’s call only. And though I don’t support the trend of using ‘two’ surname’s also viz. “Aishwarya Rai Bachchan”, “Shilpa Shetty Kundra”! Can’t they keep it a Rai or Shetty ONLY? Why to oblige your husband or the society? But still something is better than nothing!
“A woman needs to be a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom” (Read it while searching the net). Agreed cooking is an art and it is always said women and kitchen go hand in hand. But I seriously wonder that in which book is it written that men can’t cook? Why is it that the society thinks that kitchens are ‘tailor-made’ for women only? Men can work as chefs in hotels but they want women to cook for them at home. Why? Ofcourse the issue I raise is very weird! Weird because society is now set like this only and even women are set accordingly. And am quite sure that things won’t change even when I get married but the larger question is can’t men help women with all this? Why always women have to toil themselves with the household chores? I am not even sure that the question I raise is how much valid but at least I feel so!
Women in India and all over the world face a lot. The few points I raised are nothing when compared to female infanticide, rapes, dowry etc. But still I felt like sharing my views with all because I strongly respect women and I absolutely believe they are stronger than all men in everywhere be it emotionally or be it mentally!
And I say this because I have many ‘girl’ friends (not literally) and they are way mature and understanding than me. My mother, my nani, my aunt’s, everyone I know are just super woman’s. And come on let’s be honest and take a pledge that no more male chauvinism yaar. It’s time we realise that we all are normal human beings and we all are equal.
It’s time we shun all the age-old rural ideas, beliefs, practices and whatever and make this world a better place to live for women where they can breathe freely. And I am sure if every man thinks even for a second about her mother before doing any thing wrong, things would be different!! Now, I would like to end this post by quoting a few lines:
“Woman was taken out of man; not out of his head to top him, nor out of his feet to be trampled underfoot; but out of his side to be equal to him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved”
P.S. – Guyz I know it’s a very immature article and I know I can write better but seriously I have just written what my heart said. Hope you all like it 🙂